Summary:
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that 80 percent of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. It's proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow women into adulthood. Yet few men are prepared to deal with those effects, even when their own wife is the one who is suffering. And their wife's suffering becomes their own suffering as their needs aren't being met by a wife who is powerless to control her inner turmoil.
Author, pastor, and survivor Dawn Scott Jones candidly shares her own abuse experience to help husbands understand the varied emotions, fears, distorted thoughts, and triggers that hold their wives captive. In practical and accessible language, Jones explains the stages of the healing journey (processing denial, asking for help, grieving, expressing anger, learning to forgive, and finding resolution). Building on that knowledge, Jones then moves to an honest discussion of what husbands can do to help. Whether it's creating a healing environment, understanding the need for control, building trust, or even just praying for healing, a husband plays an active role in helping his wife survive and thrive despite her past abuse.
Offering hope for a healthy marriage relationship, When a Woman You Love Was Abused answers the questions men have and offers the advice they need to help their wives finally find peace.
Offering hope for a healthy marriage relationship, When a Woman You Love Was Abused answers the questions men have and offers the advice they need to help their wives finally find peace.
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Length: 210 pages (Paperback)
Source: Review Copy
Publication Date: August 1st 2012 by Kregel Publications
I know that I don't usually read or review non-fiction but every once in awhile I'll come across a book that sparks an interest in me and when I got the host invite from Litfuse Publicity I thought I should give this one a try. This was a short and compact read therefore I'm going to try to keep my book short, simple and to the point.
It is no secret that there are many more cases of reported molestation taking place not only in the U.S. but everywhere in the world. As the years have gone by and opinions have change people are now speaking out against their abusers.
This work of non-fiction is not so much a how to guide to me but more of a might do guide. What I found most surprising was that the book was neither preachy or forceful in the way that Dawn provided tips, pointers and ideas for the husbands, partners and boyfriends who may read this book in hopes of helping them understand and be more apt at responding to their abused partner.
I found that although the topic was a somber one that the author made an effort not to dwell on the dark side of abuse but on the more uplifting parts where she would provide pointers on how to help your mate if she has been abused by being there for her. The fact that the author herself was an abuse victim made the book all that more "real" because it is not written by someone who has never experienced the horrific trials of molestation. This was an insiders view into how a victim may think yet the author stresses that not all victims are a like there for the majority of helping your wife is to make sure she knows that you're willing to help, if you can work on your relationship and her past abuse together.
Overall it was an enlightening read, one that is easily accessible to the common person. Unlike many other works on this subject it was written plainly without frills which for me was an added bonus. The fact that this book could potentially help people because people are actually able to understand what is being said is a great change. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who knows someone who may have been molested because I can see many of the tips are transferable and can be used to help those who are not your spouse.
Author Bio:
For over twenty years God has graciously used Dawn to touch the lives of people through her affecting personal testimony, her humor, and her writing. Dawn’s past challenges have deepened and enriched her ministry; enabling her to truly understand and relate to what others are going through.
Dawn is an Ordained Minister with the Assemblies of God. She has served in various capacities including Executive Team Pastor, Small Groups Pastor, and Woman’s Ministry Director. Dawn travels Nation-wide speaking, training and consulting.
Extra Info:
In coordination with the launch of their fall releases, Kregel will be hosting a live webcast event on September 20 at 8 PM EDT featuring authors Kim Ketola (Cradle My Heart), Teske Drake (Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow), and Dawn Scott Jones (When a Woman You Love Was Abused). The webcast will allow women to come together to share their struggles and fears in order to move toward healing and hope. Women will able to support one another and discuss shared experiences in a non-threatening, open and loving environment.
Cat Hoort of Kregel says, ""We are seeking to provide safe means for Christian women to be vulnerable with each other, to seek help and guidance from authors and counselors, and to find encouragement from those who have shared similar experiences. Our hope is that the Women Redeemed webcast will become a forum for hurting women as well as for those who can help. Kim, Teske, and Dawn are all survivors and their stories will surely inspire and equip other women to move toward healing and hope."
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